http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/ 2008-08-28T04:02:22-07:00 http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/ http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/lib/images/favicon.ico text/html 2007-10-11T16:12:42-07:00 shohn http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/doku.php?id=stopping_an_affair&amp;rev=1192144362&do=diff1192144362 The common wisdom in this area is to just stay out of the way and eventually the affair will be over. The authors of this site maintain otherwise thus far based on personal experiences. Without becoming controlling..... The convential wisdom is don’t snoop around , stay out of the way of the affair, etc. However, since you are here reading an Internet site on how to save your marriage, it may be likely that you are getting desperate. Desperation often results in loony tunes behavior. This g… text/html 2007-10-11T15:52:29-07:00 shohn http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/doku.php?id=spouse_is_mentally_unstable&amp;rev=1192143149&do=diff1192143149 Is your spouse really mentally unstable? Really? Questions to ask yourself are: Was my spouse always mentally unstable or has my perception of my spouse been altered since I got threatened with divorce papers? Is your spouse generally a “good” person, but has made some mistakes? text/html 2007-07-31T08:06:08-07:00 shohn http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/doku.php?id=dealing_with_no_sex&amp;rev=1185894368&do=diff1185894368 It is likely that there has been a decrease in sexual relations with your spouse if you are presently reading this. There seem to be a couple of different categories of problems in this area and degrees of severity. The list below will list the different types of problems that can occur, followed by a detailed explanation and proposed solution for each. If you find that the problems are cross-pollinating, then you should of course customize your response to your spouse. Each of these is generall… text/html 2007-07-31T07:50:33-07:00 shohn http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/doku.php?id=controlling_emotions&amp;rev=1185893433&do=diff1185893433 It is highly likely that as you are going through the marriage saving exercise your emotions may get the best of you. The trouble is that in many cases this can actually make things worse between you and your spouse by pushing them further away. The primary subject here is emotional outburts or lack thereof. One little temper tantrum can set your marriage saving operation back by months. There is a time and a place to resolve many of the issues in the marriage, but it is generally best not to ha… text/html 2007-07-23T19:52:52-07:00 ray http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/doku.php?id=marriage_foundation&amp;rev=1185245572&do=diff1185245572 (Links to Bible verses go to <www.Biblegateway.com>, the New International Version.) We all pretty much know the story of Adam and Eve: First God made Adam, then He made Eve. Take a look at some of the verses again: Genesis 2: 18-25: “ “18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” ... 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the p… text/html 2007-07-18T16:37:26-07:00 shohn http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/doku.php?id=relationship_stages&amp;rev=1184801846&do=diff1184801846 It was stated earlier that this guide will reference our heavenly Father from time to time. There is perhaps not a better place than this section. If you are not of the spiritual persuasion, read on anyway as there is still plenty of wisdom to be learned from some ancient texts irregardless of your spiritual affiliations. text/html 2007-07-18T16:31:37-07:00 shohn http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/doku.php?id=give_space&amp;rev=1184801497&do=diff1184801497 As with everything else in the relationship dynamics, space is an unseen force that can be used to repulse or draw your estranged partner back in. Stated succinctly, respect your partner’s space wishes to the degree that it is not abandonment. Don’t be a push-over, but don’t be rude either. If your partner asks you to come over, the go, no mind games. If your partner is rude - then leave or get out of their space as respectfully as you can. text/html 2007-07-16T22:09:50-07:00 ray http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/doku.php?id=start&amp;rev=1184648990&do=diff1184648990 This Marriage Saving Guide is intended to provide you, the poor soul who is about to lose his marriage if he doesn’t shape up, with a set of rules to help govern your behavior during the marriage rescue operation. The authors of this guide are NOT counselors or lawyers, but are simply persons who have been through this mess and out of a sense of altruism are seeking to give back to their fellow man what they have learned. text/html 2007-07-16T21:20:49-07:00 shohn http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/doku.php?id=confidence_building&amp;rev=1184646049&do=diff1184646049 No doubt if you are reading this your confidence has been all but destroyed. Unfortunately for you, a lack of confidence will only further drive your marriage into the gutter. Your confidence must be restored; however, this does not give you the right to be come arrogant. There is a very fine balance, and depending upon the personality of your spouse, a dash of humility could do you some good. While your marriage is approaching divorce or after being divorced, try to think of each encounter you … text/html 2007-06-15T11:45:22-07:00 shohn http://www.glassgloves.com/wiki/doku.php?id=child_abuse&amp;rev=1181933122&do=diff1181933122 If you are accused by your spouse of abusing the children often this can be simply a disagreement over the appropriate level of discipline. This area will of course be subject to how each of you grew up. The reality is that the way you grew up was probably less than perfect if you are here searching the Internet for how to save your marriage. Don’t pass that legacy on to your children.