It was stated earlier that this guide will reference our heavenly Father from time to time. There is perhaps not a better place than this section. If you are not of the spiritual persuasion, read on anyway as there is still plenty of wisdom to be learned from some ancient texts irregardless of your spiritual affiliations.

The starting point is Songs of Solomon. This is perhaps one of the best places in the scriptures to get a summary of the stages of a relationship. Of course, we must comment that on some levels this book contains deeper more prophetical meanings, but the focus here is on the marital relationship.

It is suggested that the reader take a read of this book in detail. Dust off your nearest bible and refer to the book called Songs of Solomon. You will note that in the beginning of this book the king is rolling out the red carpet, he’s showing up with the band, he is on first date behavior. He is going all out to impress his bride. He shows up with his army and what not. Sound like your first date or your wedding perhaps?

At some point you will note that the text switches into day to day life. My lover is mine and I am my lover’s. Not the ordering of the words. The spouse is convinced first concerned about the well being of his himself and then the well being of his spouse.

The spouse then refers to the foxes. Keep the foxes out of the vineyard. Foxes are a small animal. Foxes apparently destroy vineyards. The small things will eat at your marriage. There are other analogies in there as well. Try to think about what each thing is and what you would use it for etc. Some have even said that Songs of Solomon is actually “porn” baked into the scriptures.

As the story proceeds, we notice that there is conflict and a withdrawal. The spouse comes to meet his lover, but his lover wishes not to soil her shoes. She is already in bed and doesn’t want to get up. Then she relents and goes to PURSUE her lover, but guess what? He is gone. He had offered himself, but was rejected and so he withdraws. The wife then seeks out her lover, but is nowhere to be found.

As the story progresses, you will note that eventually she finds her lover. This progresses on until a change happens. I am my lover’s and my lover is mine. The spouse now cares more about the benefit of her spouse first and then herself.

Eventually the two go hang out together in some vineyard and just have a ball. Couples who have been married for a number of years and have become “one” describe their relationship in this manner. It takes time to get there though. What you are going through now is just part of it.

This is perhaps the best scriptural take on the marital relationship. Really the whole thing is laced with this, but you have to read it in its entirety to understand. Here is a quick summary of the “bible” below.

In short, Israel cheats on God several thousand times, God says stop cheating on me each time and he get progressively angrier. He forgives, they cheat on him again, he forgives, they cheat on him again. Eventually he decides it is time for some tough love. He snaps and calls for a divorce, but says that he’ll come back in awhile to restore his lost bride. I’m just going to forgive you guys one day by establishing a new covenant with you and I will no longer remember your sins.

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