Glass Gloves

Okay, so I’ve decided that my theological exploration probably needs to be moved off of this site as it is getting a bit heavy and cluttering this site a bit.

I mean, really, the Good News is quite simple. God became man - sacraficed Himself to restore us to right relationship with Him by resurrecting Himself from death. Yup it’s a gift, and hopefully you’ll be so thankful and loving of our God when you “get” what He did that you’ll turn your life over to Him and He’ll start ironing out your flaws and what not and even communicating with you through events in your life and other means when you’re ready and stuff. Also, He seems to really really like loving obedience…. not Yes masta, what ever you say boss, but something like… Thankyou for making me… whatever you want buddy! That’s the basic message. Stay on and meditate in His word if you please. Tell others about Him. Not reaaaaaly a whole lot more complicated than that. Doesn’t mean you need to run off and join the Salvation Army, but no worries, He’ll put it on your heart what your missionary purpose is so just relax and let that Spirit start coming on you and speaking to you. May be as simple as ministering to your family and children. Or something like that.
Anyway, my personal questions and what not will start moving to http://www.unscriptural.org (56 hits). I gave it this title because I have found tons of people with broadly different theological differences saying “That’s completely unscriptural” or that is “Not Biblically based”. Heck there are even whole denominations that do this. At the end of the day, I’ve come to view denominational differences as just more walls separating us from God. There will be differences of opinion. Let’s not sweat the small stuff, but focus on unity… something like that.
So I’m just a computer geek ex farm boy from Texas who has some unanswered questions that the Boss and I are working through together. I know now that I will NEVER have all the answers and that NOONE does, but I’m trying to hang on to insights and document them as they are revealed.  We’ll see if anything usefull falls out of the effort!
Anyway, if you care at all about such stuff -> http://www.unscriptural.org (56 hits).

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Sony is sponsoring a family values movie. Who’d a thunk it! Things are moving. Me thinks our Father is getting tired of where we are headed and is moving in a big way!

www.fireproofthemovie.com (30 hits)

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Here… want to try an experiment on what living in God’s kingdom is supposed to be like?

Go here -> http://www.christianchildrensfund.org

See picture of a child…. click on link to sponsor child. Key in CC info.

Experience Joy - not happiness, but joy! Weird how He designed us that way.
Try it. You might like it.

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A couple of things in this post.

First, I’m not sure if this is any good, but it may help someone -> http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/ (88 hits) Make comments if it is any good. The comments must be approved (prevent excessive Viagra ads) so don’t fret if it doesn’t show up immediately.

Also, Surgeon General’s warning (well maybe not), is that Divorce May be Hazardous to your Longevity -> http://www.365reasons.com/health.htm (71 hits)

I was thinking of starting a site about how to lose the ol’ beer belly and quit smoking at some point. Maybe this is a good time to start thinking about it.

Ray has asked me to make a few changes to the site. These are coming soon, I’ve just been busy with new job and all so hold your horses for anyone out there reading still. This may introduce some bugs in the site. Please be on the lookout for bugs and email a d m i n @ g l a s s g lo v e s . c   o  m    if you see any (remove spaces).
Say some prayers please for “GroovyStix” (re chilicheese rhymes with Hershey’s) and his wife. His just got some more bad news - he has pretty well given up now. He has been through a lot.

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Hmm… Maybe I’m not crazy after all. Looks like the military may be getting the idea around relationships too. Sell your defense industry stocks quick before they start pulling a Ghandi in the next war and realize that weapons aren’t really needed as bad as we may have thought.
http://www.desertdispatch.com/news/love_1402___article.html/bank_salazar.html (50 hits)

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Here is another story of a couple that managed to make it through the rough phase and are now helping other folks with this stuff.

http://www.modbee.com/life/faithvalues/story/62456.html (98 hits)

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Okay, here is another site I found. I honestly don’t know whether this one is effective or not. I didn’t use it in my marriage rescue operation, but perhaps it will help someone else. If anybody has tried this, I’d be curious as to whether it helps or not ->

http://www.marriagemax.com/ (157 hits)

I guess I should put up some kind of voting tool to rate the effectiveness of various resources that are out there.

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Somewhere on this site, I posted an article stating that one of the things that makes my wife get ummm…. frisky, is well just plain old fun. Yeah, I know, I know too much information, but I really believe that many times that part of the marriage is a symptom of how the other parts of the relationship are doing. This may not apply to everyone, but hey, it does to mostly everyone I know so go figure.

When I mean fun, I mean good clean fun, date nights, etc. That kind of stuff. Well this guy seems to have made a science out of it ->

http://www.playfulrelationships.com/CreatePlayfulRelationship.html (114 hits)

and claims to have the experience to boot. I’ve never tried his program, but if he comes to town I think we may check it out.

That reminds me of another concept though. It has to do with arguing. Arguments are so fun. Both parties usually have their blinders on and can’t REALLY see the other person’s point of view, much less ACKNOWLEDGE their flaws and weaknesses, until……………….. someone cracks a joke.

Yeah I know, it sounds stupid, but it seems to work.  You still need to play nicely with this during an argument with a spouse who is trying to bail, that is, don’t over do it. Each argument, I’d give it probably two or three shots at humor, any more than that you have officially become about as funny as a heart attack.

The first shot at it, your spouse will sit there angrily…. trying to hold on to their anger. I’ve got a right to be angry darn it. I’m going to stay angry. Then you deliver that joke and bam, you just loosened them up a bit.

All kinds of crazy brain chemicals or endorphines or whatever they are called are released. Happy brain chemicals start to bathe those oh so angry brain cells in their happiness, and then all of a sudden one of the angry brain cells becomes happy. Next thing you know, all the several angry cells have a bunch of revolting happy cells.

Then just for an instant you see your spouse crack a smile It is usually very faint. It’s kind of looks like ol’ GWB when he’s being serious. You know he’s being serious, but the guy looks like he has a faint smirk on all the time. If you’ve seen the pres of the US on TV, you should now have a visual of what I’m talking about.
Then the angry cells realize what is going on and squelch this little rebellion of the happy cells. Now is a good time for you to say…. “I saw a smile!”… then back off, don’t overdo it. Now your spouse is contemplating what to do about this……Back off Back off or you’re going to ruin it. If you did it right, they’ll smile just a bit more and try to be all bashful about it. Awwwww.. how cute, they’re trying to stay angry. Don’t say that though, otherwise you’ll get a nice punch to the groin or a frying pan upside your head. Really you shouldn’t be thinking that, but you know you were for a split second.
Now you do something completely off the wall….. you say, “look, I don’t want to argue with you, I know you probably don’t want to hear this right now, but I really do love you. I tell you what. I’m going to take some time to think about what you have to say. Is that okay with you?”. Your spouse is still angry, but for just a split second they weren’t. Leave it at that and see if you can’t turn that split second into something bigger once you really and truly try to see things from their point of view over a day or so.

Congratulations, you’ve just left the argument on somewhat of a good tone, not the best but better than what it would have been, and now you can go do some more soul searching. Consider carefully, what your spouse had to say.

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I found another site that may have some value for understanding things in the marriage and what is going wrong with yours, but really I think this one is more for maintenance mode. The guy sends out free tips etc. from time to time. Be forewarned though, there was one tip that went out about “scheduling sex”. I can just see that going over like a lead balloon with my wife.

Husband: The owner of “smart marriage.com” says we should schedule sex.

Wife: Umm okay.

Husband: Well, can we schedule it?

Wife: I guess.

Husband: Okay, I’ll send you a repeating meeting request. Show up with nothing but a pink tutu please.>

Wife: Yeah, I’ll let you wear the tutu weirdo. Does that mean I can cancel the meeting if I get a headache?

Seriously, there is some good stuff there, but as usual, you have to go with what works and try to filter the ideas into what works for your marriage and be aware that some of it may not be appropriate for the saving the marriage stage.
http://www.smartmarriages.com/index.html (98 hits)

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So I found an interesting site which also happens to have modules for Sword (113 hits). For those who aren’t in the know, there is free scriptural study software out there called esword and the sword. Whenever you find something that is confusing or seems to contradict in the scriptures, I’ve found it can often be a poor translation. This software helps you slice and dice through scripture in ways much faster than you could with hard copy. Any hoo, there was also an interesting review of the marital covenant…. check it out here ->

http://www.eliyah.com/family/divorceremarriage.html (106 hits)

It seems to be a quick review of quite a bit of material. If you are in trouble with your marriage, for heaven’s sake don’t go reading this to your spouse as that will only push them further away if they are really angry with you. If not so angry, it may be okay.

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