Glass Gloves

Okay, so half-way through the recovery of my marriage (the divorce was still proceeding) I was talking to one of my friends about all the silly things that my wife and I were doing to each other. It was a train off the tracks. My friend told me a long story about the struggle he went through and then started talking about Dr. Phil. He told me how 9 months ago, he thought of Dr. Phil as a pompous know it all who thought he was better than everyone. At some point though, he did get so desperate that he actually purchased one of Dr. Phil’s books called “Relationship Rescue”.

He then told me that he only read a couple of chapters, but here he was 9 months later recommending that I find one of these books and read it. So I did. It was definitely cheesy, but I think I did learn at least one valuable lesson. I learned how bad I actually was towards my spouse, how bad our relationship was, and realized that I needed to make some changes on my part - it wasn’t all her. What a revelation. I read the whole thing in one night and then worked through most of the exercises. In the end, once I presented Dr. Phil’s plan to my spouse - she more or less thought it was stupid, but I think it at least gave me what I needed as far as working some of my own issues. It is a good read - just be careful where you step! Also, if your significant other is in the “divorce is the only option” stage, then I suggest you be very careful about letting him or her know that you reading this lest they realize that you are a bit cheesy too! Once a person is in that state of mind just about anything positive you do can be perceived negatively (216 hits). Hide the book until he or she is ready. This would be in accordance with Dr. Phil’s advice about being patient. Don’t be mysterious about hiding it which is also in accordance with Dr. Phil’s advice.

See the Recommended Literature on the left side if you want to check this book out.

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This post is a retelling of something that had happened at the beginning of my own personal journey to reclaim my spouse.

Once my spouse came to me and was serious about filing for divorce I finally started to take her seriously. Unfortunately, by this time she had already entered the “it is too late” state of mind. I realized that my spouse was no longer the person that I had fallen in love with, but rather was someone I had pushed way too far. She could not be reasoned with and even the thought of not proceeding with the divorce was foreign to her. I realized I needed some help and so I scoured the Internet. I found an ebook called Save the Marriage (439 hits) which at least helped me form enough of a plan to get her talking. It basically lays out the different stages of a divorce and how it can be prevented. I didn’t read the whole thing, but it did explain what I was up against.

I asked her what would it take to save our marriage - a miracle? She said yes - a miracle. I was later granted one (446 hits) miracle by God, but the point is that where we were at with our relationship at that time - her response of a miracle was actually positive! She could have said nothing could save our marriage! I wouldn’t have known to ask that without the help of this resource.

Check it out if you are at a similar stage.

Please note that I used many other resources, but this was where I started.

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This site is largely focused on helping people save their marriages from divorce. Helpful resources and success stories are the intended scope of the site. I’m still working out the details of how all this is going to work, but hopefully this at least gets the ball rolling.

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